What is affection? Affection is warmth, love, intimacy and joy.
According to C.S Lewis, affection is summarised as
Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.
Dr
Randy Carlson has a very good analysis of love and affection. In the
article he mentioned that affection is a step beyond love. It says
Affection
takes the loving relationship between a man and woman in marriage into
the deeper realm of tender expressions that result in feelings of
closeness, passion, and security. Affection takes work because it
requires knowledge of what makes the other person tick.
It further states that
- Affection isn't sexual, but it naturally leads to sexual satisfaction.
- Affection isn't time, but it requires time to accomplish.
- Affection isn't communication, but without communication there can be no affection.
- Affection isn't romance, but it typically involves romantic spontaneity, creativity, and fun.
What is the best form of showing your affection to someone you love and care? XXOO XOXO !!!
What
do those represent? Hugs and Kisses! "X" refers to "Hugs" while "O"
refers to "Kisses". This wasn't used to be so. In fact "X" its origins
show that "X" means kisses while "O" means hugs! Read this if you like
to explore what has history done to XOXO.
We give each other hugs
as a form of encouragement, pats on the back to say "You've done an
extremely good job. Well done! Keep it up!" Yes, hugs are wonderful
stabilisers and energy boosters even for friends. Have you given your
family and friends this gift of affection?
Kisses! Mmmuaackkzz! A
ususal way of "spelling" kisses, if they could be spelt. Have you been
sending virtual kisses to your special someone? Have you been receiving
these expressions of affection from your special someone? You feel
elated and terrific don't you? I know I do, each and every time. You
will too.
Love thrives in and through affection. When you show
lots of affection to your loved one and in return lots of affection,
you can be sure that your relationship is thriving in lots of positive
emotions and happiness. This extends to parent-child relationships too.
Babies receiving lots of hugs, kisses, caresses feel loved, cared for
and safe. As such they grow up to be more loving and trusting person,
with a high chance that they will pass this on to their wives and
offsprings too.
We know there are people who are afraid of
affection. These are the ones who probably have some security issues
with themselves, or they may have been emotionally abuse at an earlier
stage. Child rape and sexually-abused people tend to be afraid of
affection. This is so sad because they are cutting away a big part of
themselves away - the need to feel emotionally safe and wanted. Help
these people if you know them. Refer them to counsellors or coaching.
They too stand a big chance being loved and cared for if they can
eliminate those bad clouds shrouding over them due to those nasty past
events.
Affection can be additive. How so? When you feel so good
from those nice and warm gestures of love from your partner, wouldn't
you like to have more? Would that also make you want to reciprocate and
give in return? This is true for friends too, though they come in other
forms like pats on the back, rub on the shoulders and yes, hugs too!
XXXX!
Give the gift of affection to anyone whom you have a
connection with. Be generous. The smiles on their faces will certainly
make your heart leap with joy too.
My Second Gift For You - The Gift Of Affection.
It
is the passion that is in a kiss that gives to it its sweetness; It is
the affection in a kiss that sanctifies it. -- Christian Nestell Bovee
